Avoid people who second-guise everything you do! Never give a space in your life to someone who continuously bring your down. It’s impossible to believe in yourself 100% when you’re surrounded by people who don’t believe in you. Sometimes you may doubt if there negativity against you is real. On a long enough timeline, your confidence will give in to the constant bombardment of self-doubt around you.
It’s biological. Your brain is wired to copy the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of other people. You can fight this herd mentality for a while, but not forever. The only way to win the battle for your own mind is to actively decide who you let into your life.
If you want to increase confidence and avoid feeling of self-doubt, you must eliminate people who second-guess everything you do. Second-guessers are those people who are always predicting all the bad things that will happen to you if you take on some new challenge.
When you tell these people about a new idea, they will give you a list of reasons why the idea is flawed. When you show them something you have created, like a business plan, a chapter of your new book, or the early stages of a new project, the first thing they will do is tell you everything they don’t like about it.
Second-guessers never offer solutions and they never ask productive questions. They just predict failure—doom and gloom.
Stop listening to these people. Their predictions are based on nothing but fear. Instead, surround yourself with people who are going to ask you constructive and instructive questions, people who are going to first congratulate you on your new idea and project, people who are going to help you look for solutions. Successful people help and push each other to succeed but second guessers are drainers.