There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative. By W. Clement Stone
When I was in the my primary stage of life, I use to believe that other people are doing well more than me due to the kind of teaching I use to hear that demons are after you, one person or other are after you which is effecting my life over years in Christianity as if the power of demon is greater than tremendous power of God and the victory Christ has given us. Everything is nicknamed demon even when i am making mistakes that need to be corrected. It completely effect my life, my believe system, and how I respond to things and people. Until I heard a simple phrase that hit me like tornado and change my mentality.
And here is the nugget. An entire body of water the size of the Pacific Ocean can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, all the negativity in the world can’t bring you down unless you allow it to get inside your head.”
And from that day onwards I felt better. I made a conscious decision to stop letting the bully get inside my head. I changed my beliefs about his level of importance in my life.
It isn’t easy to remain positive when negativity surrounds you, but remember that you have full control over what you choose to believe. You can effectively defend yourself against all kinds of negativity by adopting simple, yet powerful, beliefs that support a positive outlook in the face of seemingly negative circumstances.
The belief formation process starts when a seed is implemented in the person’s mind. This seed could be a small remark made by an authoritative person, an advice given by a close friend or even a phrase you heard from a complete stranger.
“You don’t know how hard it was to pass that exam”
“The economy is getting tougher” These are perfect examples of seeds. Once you bump into a seed it will settle into your mind whether you want it or not. At this point the belief is not formed yet but as you experience different situations that water the seed it will grow and become a solid belief.
HOW BELIEFS ARE FORMED
The beliefs you hold about life, yourself and people is what’s responsible for who you are, how you behave and who you will become. False beliefs can limit the human potential by preventing a person from achieving what he can already achieve. Positive beliefs on the other hand can help you trust your abilities, achieve your dreams and reach the success you ever wanted to achieve.
Because of the extreme importance of beliefs and the significant impact they have on our lives it makes a lot of sense to learn how beliefs are formed so that you can prevent false ones from being formed and support the formation of positive ones.
This strategy may be of a help
(1) What people may say!
No matter what you do people will always talk bad or good about you. Positive people see people positively and negative people see people negatively.
What other people say about me is their problem, not mine. Don’t take other people’s negativity personally. Most negative people behave negatively not just to you, but to everyone they interact with. What they say and do is a projection of their own reality. Even when a situation seems personal – even if someone insults you directly – it oftentimes has nothing to do with you. What others say and do, and the opinions they have, are based entirely on their own self-reflection. Be in charge of your own personality!
(2) I Am Free To Be ME.
Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be? Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to everyone else and what they want. Stop living for other people and their opinions. Be true to yourself. You are the only person in charge of your life. The only question is: What do you want to do with the rest of it? Purpose wise, where purpose is dined, abuse becomes the way of life!
(3)Life Isn’t Perfect, But it Sure Is Great.
Our goal shouldn’t be to create a perfect life, but to live an imperfect life in radical amazement. To get up every morning and take and good look around in a way that takes nothing for granted. Everything is extraordinary. Every day is a gift. Never treat life casually. To be spiritual in any way is to be amazed in every way. But remember life can’t give you what you want but what you deserve. Mediocrity and Excellency is choice.
(4) It’s Okay To Have Down Days.
Expecting life to be wonderful all the time is wanting to swim in an ocean in which waves only rise up and never come crashing down. However, when you recognize that the rising and crashing waves are part of the exact same ocean, you are able to let go and be at peace with the reality of these ups and downs. It becomes clear that life’s ups require life’s downs. Nothing is permanent in life but my motivation is when it gets tough become tougher! Even when you are down, you are not yet a failure until you refuse to rise.
(5)Even When I’m Struggling, I Have So Much To Be Grateful For.
What if you awoke today with only the things you were thankful for yesterday? We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but of appreciating everything we do have. Stress thrives when your worry list is longer than your gratitude list. Happiness thrives when your gratitude list is longer than your worry list. So find something to be thankful for right now. You are responsible for your happiness.
(6)Every Experience Is Just Another Important Lesson.
Disappointments and failure are two of the surest stepping-stones to success. So don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart When things go wrong, learn what you can and then push the tragedies and mistakes aside. Remember, life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. We must fail in order to know, and hurt in order to grow. Good things often fall apart, so, better things can fall together in their place. Disappointment is not real about you. It is a filling.
(7)Not Everything Is Meant To Stay.
Change can be terrifying, yet all positive growth and healing requires change. Sometimes you have to find the good in goodbye. Because the past is a place of reference, not a place of residence. Be strong when everything seems to be going wrong, keep taking small steps, and eventually you will find what you’re looking for. Learn to trust the journey, even when you do not understand it. Stay positive.
(8)Being Wrong Is The First Step To Being Right.
Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places. To be creative and productive in life, you must first lose your fear of being wrong. And remember, a fear like this can only survive inside you if you let it live there.
(9)I Do Not Need To Hold On To What’s Holding Me Back.
You are not what have happened to you; you are what you choose to become. It’s time to break the beliefs and routines that have been holding you back. Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer grows you. Listen to your intuition, not your ego. When you stop chasing the wrong beliefs, you give the right ideas a chance to catch you. Successful people do things differently.
Knowledge is not power. Knowledge is potential power. Applied knowledge is a dynamic tool in knocking down the walls of limiting beliefs. Become a life-long learner, and seek out knowledge with laser focus. Put yourself in proximity with people who know more than you do. Proximity is power! Model the best and learn from their experience and you can create the beliefs that will compel you to succeed.