Getting down into negative mind-set is to build a prison in your own mind. It holds you captive and holds you back from being yourself best. They see opportunity and never recognise it. They replay an incident in mind ruminating (mostly on the unpleasant parts). They always think about the future trying to manipulate the outcome in a certain situation. They need validation or approval from certain people to be happy. Only when someone will act in a certain way will they feel good about themself. They have an idea of the future, an image of themselves and if the events don’t go as planned then they feel let down every single time. Negative minded person sees nothing good out of people, and they see the worst in everything because when the mind is blind, the eyes useless.
Getting into such a cobweb called negative mind-set puts you into a state of blaming people often even in your mistakes. When you lie to your friends, you are disrespecting the relationship. Telling what you think they want to hear for your own interests and convenience. When you envy your friends feel envious, it is more likely because you want to have what your friend have or be like them. Envy can be a very destructive behaviour that it can make you feel guilty, inferiority and low self-esteem for not having what your friend have. However, you have control over what you permit. Negativity can easily invade your heart and mind, and this can be extremely toxic for you.
Every individual has the Inner Light to experience an awakening that becomes a calling, taking them into a life of service with a strong desire to live an incredible life.
We react very well to information about others, that is why we heard bad story about others and automatically turn into enmity with them without minding if the story teller is the enemy of slander. We take negative gossip about others seriously because we view it as useful information that can protect us. Negative people enjoy hearing that people fails. The result is that when someone spreads false rumours about you, it’s hard to shake off that reputation. This can damage your personal and professional opportunities and it’s also extremely stressful. (Though, on the third day you will rise). But successful people prove that what may initially feel like failure may just be the launching pad you need for success.
Here are nine tips that will help you Get Rid of a Negative Mind-set
1} Lets NOT Cherish Destructive Thoughts
Drag your thoughts away from your troubles… by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it. ~ Mark Twain
Often we don’t realise how much we subconsciously cherish negative thoughts. It may seem counter intuitive, but often a negative frame of mind occurs because we won’t let go of the negative thoughts and ideas. Sometimes the mind clings on to these thoughts with a feeling of self-pity or injured pride. We don’t like the negative frame of mind, but at the same time are we consciously trying to overcome it? The problem is that if the negative thoughts go round and round in our mind they can become powerful and we lose a sense of perspective. Just make a conscious decision to ignore the negative flow of thoughts and sentiments and be persistent in these attempts.
2} Ask Yourself: Do I want to be Happy or Miserable?
Most people are as happy as they make up their minds to be. ~ Abraham Lincoln
We firmly need to know and understand that a negative mind-set is a choice you make. If we feel a victim to our own emotions and thoughts, nobody else will be able to help us. We should feel that by holding on to a negative frame of mind, we are inevitably choosing to be unhappy; each negative is a conscious decision to be miserable. If we really value the importance of our own inner peace and happiness, we will aspire to cultivate this through good, uplifting thoughts. Next time you feel the onset of a depressed state of mind, just ask yourself the question: Do I want to be happy or miserable?
3} Surround Yourself With Positive People
Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher. ~ Oprah Winfrey
Usually the best antidote to negativity is simply to spend time with positive happy people doing positive, uplifting activities. Sometimes if we analyse and examine our own negativity it does nothing to reduce it. By engaging in useful fun activities with positive and happy people, we forget about the reasons for our negativity; this is often the most powerful way to overcome a depressed state of mind. Positive Happy people often melt away all the negativity around them.
4} Don’t Accept Negativity from Other People
There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative. ~ W. Clement Stone
There are no shortage of pessimists, critics and do mongers in the world we live in. There will always be people who can find the negative in life; but, there is no reason why we have to ascribe to their world view. For example, often in an office environment there is a negative attitude to the workplace, but, even if there are faults and limitations we don’t have to allow them to make us a negative person.
5} Let Go of Thoughts
The highest possible stage in moral culture is when we recognize that we ought to control our thoughts. ~ Charles Darwin
If you can learn to control your thoughts, you can control the experience and emotions of life. The best antidote to negativity is learning the art of meditation. Meditation is more than just relaxation; it is a change in consciousness. We move from the limited perspective of our mind and discover an inner source of happiness. Making your mind quite is meditation enough. Just a few minutes of a quite mind can help tremendously in letting go of negative thoughts.
6} Live From the Heart
“Live your life from your heart. Share from your heart. And your story will touch and heal people’s souls.”~ Melody Beattie
The nature of the mind is to be suspicious and critical. If someone does 99 good things and 1 bad thing, the mind will invariably remember the bad thing. If we allow ourselves to be drawn into highlighting the mistakes of others we will invite a negative mind-set. However, if we live from the heart we are not drawn to the faults of others (even if they are insignificant). It is in the heart that we can have a true sense of oneness with others, their faults seem insignificant and we can feel a sense of identity with the achievements of others.
7} Don’t Sit Around Doing Nothing
The harder I work, the luckier I get. – Samuel Goldwyn
The worst thing for a negative frame of mind is to mope around feeling sorry for ourselves. Ruminating on our bad luck / worries / fears will not diminish them in any way. Exercise can be a powerful way to bring about a new consciousness. Negativity is often associated with boredom and lack of purpose. Stop endlessly surfing web; look for something good to do. Put all that knowledge you have to good use.
8} Make Yourself Think of Positive Thoughts
“You’ve done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.”~ Ralph Marston
If you are feeling really miserable and have a low sense of self-esteem, try thinking of some good things that you have done. At a low time our own mind can be our worst enemy and very self-critical. It is important not to lose a sense of balance; for the various bad things we have done, we have also done some good things. Remember them in your mind’s eye and feel the happiness in your heart.
9} Don’t Think Anything You Wouldn’t Say in Front of People
We often think things we would never say in front of people. If you are annoyed, disappointed with someone else, imagine what you would say to them in person. Sometimes when we are with people we are forced to behave; even if we are not particularly sincere the effort to avoid negativity can help us to overcome our bad mood. When you think positive, you feel positive. When you think negative you feel negative. Make a choice to think only positive thoughts, and even if negative thoughts find their way in, shoo them off by filling your heart and mind with positive thoughts and feelings.
Maintaining a positive attitude through the ups and the downs is important to every aspect of life: your social status, your work, your health and your relationships. If you’re feeling down and having a particularly negative outlook on the way things are going, just remember that attitude is everything and a positive attitude will lead you out of the darkest of times. Winston Churchill said, “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” Everyone deals with setbacks at some point in their life, but it’s important to keep your eyes on the prize and keep trucking. Hard work, high energy and a positive outlook will guide you towards great success, despite the challenges you meet along the way.