“Your brain is the boss of your body and your thoughts is the boss of your actions”_”Divine-Royalty.
When the brain is low on energy, it affects the functioning of the mind. You may experience forgetfulness, difficulty concentrating, and/or a poor mood when your brain does not have enough energy, but when there is energy in your brain, the mind will be highly sensitive and authority.
Stubbornness is considered the “showing dogged determination not to change one’s attitude or position on something” per dictionary.com. This feels right. What I find emerging in highly sensitive children beyond sensitivity is the energy of defiance. They rely on their inner wisdom, what I call intuitive intelligence versus outside authorities. In other words, these highly sensitive boys and girls cannot be cajoled by people outside of them – they are inwardly motivated and when they want to do something, they will, why? Because your mentality determine your authority!
So what do you do when your highly sensitive son or daughter digs in her heels? I have suggestions.
(1) Work with them – So often parents and other adults tell children what to do versus partnering with them. This is a problem. Highly sensitive children are sensitive to your words, demeanour, tone, atmosphere and overall attitude towards them so they’ll do what they know how to do – defy, talk back, sass, refuse and other outward displays of anger and frustration. You need to change your approach and partner with them even if it’s hard, challenging, the last thing you want to do … it will eventually save you time, energy and frustration.
(2) Negotiate – One thing I have learned is that children that are “acting out” need something they are not getting. So ask questions like: What’s going on? How can I help you? Why are you upset? What do you need now? And yes, I am a proponent of negotiating with children – it sends the right message. You are basically saying, “Yes, I realize you are a powerful being and let’s make a deal.” Again, it is another form of partnering with kids so they win and you win. There’s nothing wrong with this!
(3) Inspire them – Highly sensitive children are very influenced by your words, actions and what they see around them. so use that to inspire and motivate them. For example, If he love boxing. Use the history of my friend “Anthony Joshua” to inspire him. If he love sucker (football) use a legend in sucker to inspire and motivate him. If he likes basketball, use Michael Jordan to inspire him.
Excite your children about their goals and ambitions. Show that you are excited for them, too. The positive energy and adrenaline will push them to continue their hard work and be happy with their efforts.
Encourage your children to discover what they are passionate about. It may take a few tries along the way. Support them on their journey towards passion and urge them to keep going until they find out what it is.
Maintain a positive and optimistic outlook for your children. If they see fear or doubt in your eyes, then they will likely lose self-confidence. Having a positive approach will lighten their entire outlook to a situation.
Children are gift from God. The way you shape them determine your happiness future and in society. So never tag your child a stubborn child. It is mental authority or highly sensitive child that needs your attention to give him or her a sense of purpose to discover the best potential in them.