THE EFFECT OF CHILDHOOD ISSUES IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

It’s everyones duty to play the rule of safeguarding the leaders of tomorrow called children from emotional bankrupt, without which, children grow up to become adults who struggle with feelings of low self-worth

and challenges with emotional regulation. They also have an increased risk of developing depression and anxiety attack.

Unfortunately, many times these childhood scars lead to a variety of negative adult behaviors. Every child deserves to have a care-free childhood that produces homey, safe, happiness and loving memories. But, when a child is severely mistreated, it often leads to psychological and mental disturbances. When a person is taught, early in life, that he or she is worthless, stupid, incompetent, mischievous, unwanted and unloved, he or she grows up believing those descriptions are true. Kindly take a look at this seven tips that portray my points

  1. Threats and fear of abandonment. These can lead to jealousy and feelings of insecurity.
  2. Lack of emotional nurturing. This can lead to feelings of emotional deprivation – which can feel like a bottomless pit to fill.
  3. Growing up with feelings of entitlement. This can lead to feeling as if you don’t have to live by the same rules as others – as you are special, and a bit superior.
  4. Being told that you’re inferior or inadequate. This causes you feel like you’re never good enough.
  5. The demand to be perfect, and to always get things right. This can leading to being driven – and incredibly high standards.
  6. Being betrayed by those you trusted – so you won’t trust now, and you can’t get close to others, or let them get close to you.
  7. Being raised is a way that your needs were denied, not allowed, disregarded, trivialised or ignored. This can lead to a doormat type of personality where other people matter – and your needs never count

2 comments

  1. Thank you, Vincent, for this interesting and useful post.

    I was a teacher in inner-city schools for many years. The more you learned about some students, the sadder it became. In my first year of teaching, the sad stories gave me nightmares. The more you knew about the student’s background, the more you could understand where their negative and self-defeating behaviors came from. It wasn’t necessarily that the parents mistreated their children. Most of the parents loved their children. Often, the whole family was trapped in unfortunate circumstances.

    As I read your list, I recognized some of those causes and effects I saw as a teacher.

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